Commentaries by Cynthia

I live in North Carolina. My political views are liberal or progressive, and I am very much pro-woman. I believe in equality for all people. You will see these values reflected in my writing.

The selected postings of my memoir (see beginning of blog) are based on actual events in my life. In some cases, names and places have been altered to protect the identities of the parties involved. As with most memoirs, time has been compressed and certain events are listed out of sequence.

(Note: This is a sticky post. More recent posts are below.)

Domestic Violence – it doesn’t get any better. Please get help and get out. There are organizations that can help you. Call your local Social Services office to get more information.

Married People – don’t make romantic advances to singles. They are free and you are not. Put your energies into your marriage. (The last married man who made a pass at me got a sermon and a half!)

Free-will – don’t violate another person’s right to it. If another person doesn’t want you around them, respect that. Stalkers are very scary people.

And the quote of the day, which I will ponder seriously in my own life, taken from WordsCanHeal.com:

An atheist was walking through the woods.

"What majestic trees! What powerful rivers! What beautiful animals!" he said to himself.

As he was walking alongside the river, he heard a rustling in the bushes behind him. He turned to look and saw a 7-foot grizzly bear charge towards him.

He ran as fast as he could up the path. He looked over his shoulder & saw that the bear was closing in on him. He looked over his shoulder again, and the bear was even closer. Then he tripped & fell on the ground.

He rolled over to pick himself up but saw that the bear was right on top of him, reaching for him with his left paw & raising his right paw to strike him.

Yesterday, my inner Hawk came out, as you can see in my Limbaugh post. But I forgive myself for being warrior-like, since it is very difficult to show compassion for those who don’t show it to others. And perhaps intolerance doesn’t need to be tolerated.

Be that as it may, today I am feeling peaceful again and wanted to lighten things up a bit. This is a very cute video that anyone over 40 years of age can probably relate to.

Dear Mr. Limbaugh,

Thank you for once again showing yourself as the heartless hate-monger that your misguided fans have admired for so many years. It never fails - when people are hurting or lost or confused, this is when you jump to the forefront, spreading your vicious hatred, judgment, prejudice, and contempt for anyone who doesn’t share your political beliefs, or your skin-color for that matter.

The highly evolved people in our society are those who feel and share compassion during difficult times. So on the evolutionary scale; you are in the minus marks. But you have certainly found your niche in this hurting world. You saw that there was a market or class of people that wanted a spokesperson, so you put your big, obnoxious mouth to the radio microphone so that all the compassionless people in America no longer had to feel ashamed or contrite for lacking a sense of common decency for their fellow humans. And in the process, you earned big bucks for being a talkative jerk. How proud of yourself you much feel, gloating all the way to the bank. Only a scavenger feeds off the suffering of others, so when you look in the mirror, do you not see the face of a buzzard looking back at you?

This came to me in an e-mail. I am passing it along because the vast majority of us do feel a need to help ease the suffering in Haiti. And prayers do help.

Lord, I just want to say THANK YOU, because this morning I woke up and knew where my children were. Because this morning my home was still standing.
Because this morning I am not crying because my husband, my child, my brother or sister needs to be buried out from underneath a pile of concrete.
Because this morning I was able to drink a glass of water.
Because this morning I was able to turn on the light. Because this morning I was able to take a shower, Because this morning I was not planning a funeral.

During the past week, I have been unable to make posts.

(Don't you just love something called Technical Difficulties?)

But now at last, I think I have found a loop-hole that will let me back into my own blog.

Many thanks to my web host who has tried to help me through this vexing time. There is light at the end of proverbial tunnel.

*Note* I found this on another blog and wanted to pass these helpful hints along, because what the world does need more of can be found in this list.

This simple checklist can help measure how you are nurturing your relationships.

The Gift of Listening
But you must really listen. Don't interrupt, don't daydream, and don't plan your response. Just listen.

The Gift of Affection
Be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and handholds. Let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for family and friends.

The Gift of Laughter

Congratulations! You're not perfect! It's ridiculous to want to be perfect anyway. But then, everybody's ridiculous sometimes, except perfect people.

You know what perfect is? Perfect is not eating or drinking or talking or moving a muscle or making even the teensiest mistake. Perfect is never doing anything wrong - which means never doing anything at all.

Perfect is boring! So you're not perfect! Wonderful! Have fun! Eat things that give you bad breath! Trip over your own shoelaces! Laugh! Let somebody else laugh at you! Perfect people never do any of those things. All they do is sit around and sip weak tea and think about how perfect they are. But they're really not one-hundred-percent perfect anyway. You should see them when they get the hiccups! Phooey! Who needs 'em? You can drink pickle juice and imitate gorillas and do silly dances and sing stupid songs and wear funny hats and be as imperfect as you please and still be a good person. Good people are hard to find nowadays. And they're a lot more fun than perfect people any day of the week.